Now We Can Focus On Planning...

So since Christmas is offically over, family is gone, kids go back to school and everything is going to be returning to normal soon I can offically focus on planning the wedding. The deposit is going to be made in early January and the venue has agreed to hold the date until then. We have registered at one place and now I just have to make sure Cisco goes with me to another so we can finish it. The one project that I did do was to make a wedding website, which was quite fun. We have had 53 site visits to it, but only one person left a comment...which makes me wonder who has been looking at it. I'm sure that it's out there for more than just my guests but I still wonder.

Two of my bridesmaids have come with me to go and look at dresses and we were actually able to pick some out. It was quite exciting actually. I still feel in a daze when I go to do wedding stuff though, I guess because it still feels like it's not really happening. I guess 30 is a good age to get married. That number still sounds so old to me, at least when I say it out loud. It will be nice though I'm excited. I only have to wait for another couple of months to order my little flower girl's dress, Olivia's dress and I have to wait unitl my little nephew is born before my MOH can order her dress. I think I will be on pins and needles until that time comes, only because of the time lines that the girl at the store told me about. I guess that is something that is to be expected though and I shouldn't be surprised, I'm sure that feeling is not going to be fleeing soon.

Well I think the next big project will be to pick out the cake and flowers, that scares the S*** out of me, just by looking at all of the prices and everything. We have picked out a cake, now we just have to find a baker that we (I) trust and think that can do what I want as far as the design goes. I guess I should talk to Cisco and see what flavoring of cake he would want, I know he wants Tiramisu, but I don't know if they are able to do it. We will see soon though.

~M

Decisions, Decisions, Decisions...

We know where the wedding is going to be, we know what day (as long as we can get the deposit together soon), we know who is going to be in the wedding party, the dress - shoes - tiara and veil have been picked out. Now comes the interesting part...the invitations, cake, flowers, hotel, makeup person...etc. All of the decisions that are most definately going to give me a headache in the long run. I'm trying to get help from my little fiance, however, he's not all that interested in some of it. I ask him to help me pick things out and he does to a certain point but, then he tells me to make the final decision. You would think that it would be nice to have full power of some of the decision making...I can get what I want! But it's so much harder because I have to take into consideration price and all that stuff. I wish I could just walk into a store and say, "I'll take that, and that and that" But like every other bride, it's just very rarely like that. It's ok, it's just more time consuming I guess.

When I started doing the planning, I was thinking how easy it was going to be to plan it. I knew what I wanted so it would be simple to pick out the final products, but it wasn't. I know what I want but then there is finding the store or vendor that may have it, but then put price into the equation. Tricky, tricky.

I know what kind of bouquets I want, but can I afford it? If I can't will I be able to come up with an option that I can live with and not cringe at when thinking about it? The same with the cake. It's so scary! I don't want to look at my wedding pictures and say...I really didn't like my cake or my flowers, but otherwise it was nice. I just think those are the things that you will remember and I want to come to compromises that I am happy with, I don't want to settle.

And with all the decisions comes tons upon tons of questions...should I have a seating chart? Do the bridesmaids pay for their dresses, shoes and hair to be done or do I? What is the etiquite for letting people know where you're registered at? I thought that reading all these wedding magazines would help me, but it's just putting more are more questions in my head, I'm left spinning. I look to Cisco for answers but he looks like he wants to hide and not come out until September.

I know it will all work itself out, but right now it's just seeming like a lot.

~M

Themed Weddings...

I'm not sure if it was a mistake or a really good idea but....while listening to a song that Cisco was saying could be our song to dance to I had mentioned how it would be funny if the theme was an 80's wedding. I was just kidding but you should have seen how is face lit up and then the ideas started pouring out of his mouth..."I could have a blue tux!" That was enough for me...I regretted the words that had escaped my mouth right away.

After thinking about it and talking about how fun it would be I'm slowly considering it...only considering.

But how do you put a elegant ceremony (outfits and all) mixed with an 80's themed reception without doing aqua net hairstyles and trashy leg warmer type dresses for the girls to wear at the altar? I think that is the one thing that I am fighting with internally. When I say no to the idea Cisco starts with, "you're such a party pooper!" so I do want a different wedding, but it would have to still come out tasteful.

So let the ideas begin...

~M

This Must Be What They Talk About...

So I think that we have finally come to the point in planning this wedding where you butt heads together. When we first talked about the wedding we talked about having it in Northern California, we talked about Southern California and when those prospects were discussed with my mom...she said she may not come because it's too far out of the way for her to go. Cisco clearly looked more upset about what she said than I did. At that point I could care less because this was my wedding and I was going to have it where I wanted to have it regardless of who decided to come or not.

So I think after sleeping on it for a night, Cisco had mentioned how we could have the wedding here and it may, 1. Be easier since all of the vendors would be close and in town for us to go and look at. and 2. We could have more of our very close friends and family coming to the wedding. When he brought it up I mentioned to him how the number of invited people would be going up and he said he was aware of it.

So, at that point it was settled the wedding would be in Vegas afterall. I think the only rule that we both felt was valid is that we didn't want to have it at a Casino. Now that idea is still moving forward for the time being, and I have looked forward to planning this larger wedding. I personally don't think that it's too many people, because when I look at the list I wonder constantly how do I not invite some of these people without offending them. Many of them are very close family friends and family period. So I started looking at venues and other things...I've already picked out and purchased a dress that I have fallen in love with and have been looking forward to a real wedding; dancing, photographer, cake, food, drinks and lots of family to celebrate with.

Now due to the cost of some of these venues Cisco is backing up and turning around and saying how he wants to go on a beach somewhere the two of us to have the wedding. Which sounds wonderful, but now I'm longing for something else. I'm sure he is feeling the way he is because, 1. He doesn't want to spend a lot of money (which I don't either, but it will all work out.) and 2. He's already had the big wedding thing and it's not as important to him. I hope that he is able to see how important to me and I hope that we can work together to come to an agreement on something...

~M